The Pens have been lifted and the pages have dried..

Everybody have different ways in handling their matters. And each people have different trials and tribulation throughout their lives. It depends on what Allah swt written for them. We can't assume that our hardships is the hardest, because in the other side of the world there will be other people who suffered more than we do.

 We also can't assume that whenever Allah test somebody, if we are the one that are tested the same trials we can pass it easily. This is because when Allah test somebody, the test is for that particular person not for you. It is made for that person because Allah know that this person can go through this test. So, we can't just simply say that "if i were the one in her shoes i will do this..". Only the one that are tested know how it feels to be in that situation..

What you can do as a family or friends are help them go through their test. Encourage them to be strong. Let them know that they are not alone in this world. Let them know that somebody is out there for them. Let them know how much do you care for them. Advice them in the most delicate ways you can find so that the person is not hurt by whatever you might tell them. Words are like blades. When a person is in state of breaking down, they tend to get hurt. Especially by word. In a sense that you must choose your words carefully.

For the people who are currently being tested continuously, you must know that...

You must know that there's a reason why you're tested. And those test are not meant to befall you but to help you to be a stronger person in the future. When you feel sad and fragile and thinking that the test is too hard, don't forget to make a du'a. Ask for His mercy and guidance..

Abdullah bin Abbas r.a reported : One day i was behind the Prophet SAW and he said to me,

"O young man, i shall teach you some words [of advice] : Be mindful of Allaah, and Allaah will protect you. Be mindful of Allaah, and you will find Him in front of you. If you (have need to) ask, ask of Allaah. If you seek help, seek help from Allaah. Know that even if the Nation (or the whole community) were gather together to benefit you with something, they would not benefit you except with what Allaah had already prescribed for you. And if they were gather together to harm you with anything, they would not harm you except with what Allaah had already prescribed against you. The Pens have been lifted and the pages have dried.."

[Al-Tirmidhi]

Remember that things that has pass you by, was not meant to befall you and what has befallen you was not going to pass you by. Know that victory comes with patience, relief with affliction and hardships with ease..